The great outdoors- Toddling outside in Rain or shine

No matter what the weather, toddlers love to toddle. Their favorite place for pottering and exploring is easily identified.  Outside! Simply outside! Playing with a stick and some extra muddy dirt for hours on end int he great outdoors is bliss for a toddler or a wobbler.  But more and more children are spending their childhood in hermetically sealed housing or in enclosed paved gardens.  Nature is calling and the wee ones want nothing more than to answer with a wild whoop and a bit of easy tree climbing. (Maybe a few low bushes for starters).

The UK National Trust conducted a survey in 2016 and discovered that today’s generation of children spend half as much time outside as their parents did.  Research found that children were only playing outdoors for an average of four hours per week.  This is not ideal from a developmental point of view, nor from the perspective of a healthy lifestyle.  Here are some suggestions for activities to do in the great outdoors.

Jumping in Puddles

A good pair of wellies and a lot of laughter is all that is needed to fully appreciate the puddles that an Irish summer provides in abundance.  Wrap up well if the weather is less than kind and be aware that puddle jumping is not a spectator sport!  The whole family needs to participate to fully appreciate the wonders of splashing in water, sailing stick boats and dumping stones into little rain rivers.

Going on a Bear Hunt: 

Most parks have exciting wooded areas for bringing little ones on a ‘bear hunt’.  Let your imaginations run wild as you trundle through the bushes and over fallen logs to find the wild places where imaginary bears, fairies and Gruffalo’s can be brought to life with a little encouragement and a lot of laughter.  Build wee houses for hedgehogs and wild things from fallen leaves, moss and sticks. Bring a picnic of honey sandwiches.  There is nothing that bears like more than honey.

Planting and watering the flowers or veg:

Small children are very good gardeners. They dutifully water and tend to their favourite plants with very little encouragement.  Plant a wee pot garden together and enjoy the thrill of eating your own mint, chives and strawberries. You don’t need much space or a lot of equipment to begin a little container garden. A few yoghurt pots can start the small garden.

Become a nature explorer:

Even a few feet of hedgerow is a world of nature for an intrepid explorer. The library or the internet will help you with simple bird/flower/insect identification and your child will become a clever nature explorer as you capture the images on your phone for identifying later.

Find a good stick:

You can keep all the expensive toys in the world for they will never match up to a good stick and an empty field  It can be a sword, a wand, a tool for digging, something to lean on when walking.  You can hit metal and make noise, stir up puddles and draw in the dirt.  A good stick is a must have for all the family, as you set off for hikes or just to mess about in a meadow. Stick hunting should be high on the outdoor family agenda.

Tea parties and picnics:

Tea sets on the grass with little portions of cheese, fruit and water are a magical adventure for any group of children.  Picnics don’t have to be exotic. Hummus with pitta will taste wonderful when mixed with grass and twigs(trust us!).  Invite the favourite soft toys and complete the wonder of the day.

Daydream and imaginary play:

Sometimes, it is a good idea to cease any interaction and just to let children be when playing outside. While keeping a wary eye on your toddler you can pretend to read your book or day dream and this will allow some precious time for doing nothing.  This softly softly approach will allow imagination to flourish, giving your wee one essential time to dream, play imaginary games and potter about unhindered. Day dreaming and imaginary play is precious time indeed.

Make an effort to spend time outside every day that it is possible.  Not only will the fresh air be of benefit to your child’s health, it will increase their appetite and most importantly, tire them out for a good night’s sleep.  Now that’s an incentive no parent can ignore.  So get out and about and enjoy !

Are the Terrible Two’s Really Something to Fear?

Toddlers are adorable. They are loving and funny and cute as kittens in a basket full of teddy bears. So why does everyone brand them terrible when they reach the tender age of two. The complete overuse of the cliché, terrible twos, would imply that as soon as the candles on the second birthday cake are extinguished, the screaming will start and continue unabated till the third birthday.

Sure, we have all seen a tiny person having a large meltdown in the supermarket, church or street. Attila the Kid. Screaming the walls down because there is no pink cornflakes, because they cannot have a wine spritzer or some other random inexplicable reason.  Knowing glances and smiles from other parents can help with the embarrassment of the outburst, but  it won’t be too long before someone in the viewing public will condescendingly utter those over-used words: ‘The terrible two’s’.

Supermarket Meltdown

Two is not terrible folks. Two is wonderful. (Most of the time!). Put yourself in the little persons place and think about how they feel. Life is very complicated and this little dude/dudette must negotiate social situations, strange new experiences, food likes and dislikes, body changes and a whole plethora of new scenarios daily that would turn an adults head.  In fairness to the little ones, they meet most of these challenges with good humour, aided by cuddles, the odd nap and a healthy snack. Who can blame them for feeling overwhelmed sometimes and when those feelings of frustration bubble to the top… well, you just have to let it go!

Toddle temper tantrums can be epic! Frankly, a lot of adults would love to let rip without inhibition or consequence. Rolling around the floor bemoaning the fact that the cinema does not have hot nachos and it’s the last straw in a yucky day!  Fortunately (or unfortunately) we have learned to control our feelings of dissatisfaction and annoyance. Social mores dictates that we smile tightly and supress the screams. We cannot expect the same behaviour of the new people in the world. Afterall we would all love to react like this if we were going to Disneyland…

Let’s stop labelling toddlers, wobblers and smallies. It’s a big world for small people.  We must forgive the odd outburst and not focus on the negative. Two is no more terrible then the Onerous Ones, the Horrid Threes and the Ferocious Fours!  It’s all about attitude and your frame of mind. Children are a joy. Enjoy the world with them and through their eyes and if it all becomes too much… well… you know what to do…let it rip… after all, those terrible thirties can be tough.